Monday, November 21, 2016

In this culture...

"In this culture we display a compulsive avoidance of difficult matters and an obsession with distraction. Because we cannot acknowledge our grief, we're forced to stay on the surface of life. Poet Kahlil Gibran said, "The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." We experience little genuine joy in part because we avoid the depths. We are an ascension culture. We love rising, and we fear going down.

"Consequently we find ways to deny the reality of this rich but difficult territory, and we are thinned psychically. We live in what I call a "flat-line culture," where the band is narrow in terms of what we let ourselves fully feel."

Tim McKee

Friday, November 18, 2016

When you're different...

"When you're different, sometimes you don't see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn't."
― Jodi Picoult

Wednesday, November 9, 2016


"We have met the enemy and it is us." -- Walt Kelley

"I do not say that democracy has been more pernicious on the whole, and in the long run, than monarchy or aristocracy. Democracy has never been and never can be so durable as aristocracy or monarchy; but while it lasts, it is more bloody than either. … Remember, democracy never lasts long. It soon wastes, exhausts, and murders itself. There never was a democracy yet that did not commit suicide. It is in vain to say that democracy is less vain, less proud, less selfish, less ambitious, or less avaricious than aristocracy or monarchy. It is not true, in fact, and nowhere appears in history. Those passions are the same in all men, under all forms of simple government, and when unchecked, produce the same effects of fraud, violence, and cruelty. When clear prospects are opened before vanity, pride, avarice, or ambition, for their easy gratification, it is hard for the most considerate philosophers and the most conscientious moralists to resist the temptation. Individuals have conquered themselves. Nations and large bodies of men, never."

― John Adams, The Letters of John and Abigail Adams

Tuesday, October 25, 2016


''I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
I'm not screwing around. It's time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you've developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.

Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you're still searching and you're more lost than ever.

Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can't live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It's time to show up and be seen.''

~ Brené Brown

Saturday, October 15, 2016

Wandered, by Elizabteh Ketchup

The art of mispelling isn't hard to master;
so many sentences seem made to be meant
to be awk that their ward is no disaster.

Transpose something every day. Accept that your
modifier dangles, the affect badly lent.
The art of misplacing isn't hard to master.

Then mix up less & fewer, Grammar Führer:
split your infinitives, and let some clauses than
unravel. You can still earn you're Master's.

Lose something in translation. And look! my vocal mustard
mustered and flustered my poor mother to repent.
The art of miswording isn't hard to cuck and fluster.

Commit some lovely cardinal syntax or,
attack some impactful word salad, I dreamt
I could of done alot better, thereafter.

—Despite any confusion (the passive voice was used
by me) I fantasize I can reinvent
the art of wording, it tastes a lot like laughter
though it may look like (Rite it!) like the answer.

Friday, October 14, 2016

From Mike Rowe, on voting:

Off The Wall

Jeremy Schneider writes...

Hey Mike, I have nothing but respect for you. Your no-nonsense outlook and incredible eloquence have really had a profound impact in my life. Can you please encourage your huge following to go out and vote this election? I would never impose on you by asking you to advocate one politician over another, but I do feel this election could really use your help. I know that there are many people out there who feel like there is nothing they can do. Please try to use your gifts to make them see that they can do something - that their vote counts.

Hi Jeremy

Thanks for the kind words. I appreciate it. I also share your concern for our country, and agree wholeheartedly that every vote counts. However, I'm afraid I can't encourage millions of people whom I've never met to just run out and cast a ballot, simply because they have the right to vote. That would be like encouraging everyone to buy an AR-15, simply because they have the right to bear arms. I would need to know a few things about them before offering that kind of encouragement. For instance, do they know how to care for a weapon? Can they afford the cost of the weapon? Do they have a history of violence? Are they mentally stable? In short, are they responsible citizens?

Casting a ballot is not so different. It's an important right that we all share, and one that impacts our society in dramatic fashion. But it's one thing to respect and acknowledge our collective rights, and quite another thing to affirmatively encourage people I've never met to exercise them. And yet, my friends in Hollywood do that very thing, and they're at it again.

Every four years, celebrities and movie stars look earnestly into the camera and tell the country to "get out and vote." They tell us it's our "most important civic duty," and they speak as if the very act of casting a ballot is more important than the outcome of the election. This strikes me as somewhat hysterical. Does anyone actually believe that Leonardo DiCaprio, Ellen DeGeneres, and Ed Norton would encourage the "masses" to vote, if they believed the "masses" would elect Donald Trump?

Regardless of their political agenda, my celebrity pals are fundamentally mistaken about our "civic duty" to vote. There is simply no such thing. Voting is a right, not a duty, and not a moral obligation. Like all rights, the right to vote comes with some responsibilities, but lets face it - the bar is not set very high. If you believe aliens from another planet walk among us, you are welcome at the polls. If you believe the world is flat, and the moon landing was completely staged, you are invited to cast a ballot. Astrologists, racists, ghost-hunters, sexists, and people who rely upon a Magic 8 Ball to determine their daily wardrobe are all allowed to participate. In fact, and to your point, they're encouraged.

The undeniable reality is this: our right to vote does not require any understanding of current events, or any awareness of how our government works. So, when a celebrity reminds the country that "everybody's vote counts," they are absolutely correct. But when they tell us that "everybody in the country should get out there and vote," regardless of what they think or believe, I gotta wonder what they're smoking.

Look at our current candidates. No one appears to like either one of them. Their approval ratings are at record lows. It's not about who you like more, it's about who you hate less. Sure, we can blame the media, the system, and the candidates themselves, but let's be honest - Donald and Hillary are there because we put them there. The electorate has tolerated the intolerable. We've treated this entire process like the final episode of American Idol. What did we expect?

So no, Jeremy - I can't personally encourage everyone in the country to run out and vote. I wouldn't do it, even if I thought it would benefit my personal choice. Because the truth is, the country doesn't need voters who have to be cajoled, enticed, or persuaded to cast a ballot. We need voters who wish to participate in the process. So if you really want me to say something political, how about this - read more.

Spend a few hours every week studying American history, human nature, and economic theory. Start with "Economics in One Lesson." Then try Keynes. Then Hayek. Then Marx. Then Hegel. Develop a worldview that you can articulate as well as defend. Test your theory with people who disagree with you. Debate. Argue. Adjust your philosophy as necessary. Then, when the next election comes around, cast a vote for the candidate whose worldview seems most in line with your own.

Or, don't. None of the freedoms spelled out in our Constitution were put there so people could cast uninformed ballots out of some misplaced sense of civic duty brought on by a celebrity guilt-trip. The right to assemble, to protest, to speak freely - these rights were included to help assure that the best ideas and the best candidates would emerge from the most transparent process possible.

Remember - there's nothing virtuous or patriotic about voting just for the sake of voting, and the next time someone tells you otherwise, do me a favor - ask them who they're voting for. Then tell them you're voting for their opponent. Then, see if they'll give you a ride to the polls.

In the meantime, dig into "Economics in One Lesson," by Henry Hazlitt. It sounds like a snooze but it really is a page turner, and you can download it for free.


PS. If you do vote, or if you don't, you'll almost certainly feel better about the future of our country wearing the latest "Freddy and The BiPed" 2016 Campaign Tee Shirt. This version reads, somewhat prophetically, "A Doghouse Divided Against Itself Cannot Stand." It can all be yours for $24.99. Slightly more for the hoodie. Proceeds, as always, go to The mikeroweWORKS Foundation, and pay for work-ethic scholarships.

- Mike Rowe

(Sent from my phone)

Monday, September 12, 2016

I am not the first person you loved (by Clementine von Radics)

I am not the first person you loved.
You are not the first person I looked at
with a mouthful of forevers. We
have both known loss like the sharp edges
of a knife. We have both lived with lips
more scar tissue than skin. Our love came
unannounced in the middle of the night.
Our love came when we'd given up
on asking love to come. I think
that has to be part
of its miracle.
This is how we heal.
I will kiss you like forgiveness. You
will hold me like I'm hope. Our arms
will bandage and we will press promises
between us like flowers in a book.
I will write sonnets to the salt of sweat
on your skin. I will write novels to the scar
of your nose. I will write a dictionary
of all the words I have used trying
to describe the way it feels to have finally,
finally found you.

And I will not be afraid
of your scars.

I know sometimes
it's still hard to let me see you
in all your cracked perfection,
but please know:
whether it's the days you burn
more brilliant than the sun
or the nights you collapse into my lap
your body broken into a thousand questions,
you are the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.
I will love you when you are a still day.
I will love you when you are a hurricane.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

Home, by Warsan Shire

Home, by Warsan Shire

no one leaves home unless
home is the mouth of a shark
you only run for the border
when you see the whole city running as well
your neighbors running faster than you
breath bloody in their throats
the boy you went to school with
who kissed you dizzy behind the old tin factory
is holding a gun bigger than his body
you only leave home
when home won't let you stay.

no one leaves home unless home chases you
fire under feet
hot blood in your belly
it's not something you ever thought of doing
until the blade burnt threats into
your neck
and even then you carried the anthem under
your breath
only tearing up your passport in an airport toilets
sobbing as each mouthful of paper
made it clear that you wouldn't be going back.

you have to understand,
that no one puts their children in a boat
unless the water is safer than the land
no one burns their palms
under trains
beneath carriages
no one spends days and nights in the stomach of a truck
feeding on newspaper unless the miles travelled
means something more than journey.
no one crawls under fences
no one wants to be beaten

no one chooses refugee camps
or strip searches where your
body is left aching
or prison,
because prison is safer
than a city of fire
and one prison guard
in the night
is better than a truckload
of men who look like your father
no one could take it
no one could stomach it
no one skin would be tough enough

go home blacks
dirty immigrants
asylum seekers
sucking our country dry
niggers with their hands out
they smell strange
messed up their country and now they want
to mess ours up
how do the words
the dirty looks
roll off your backs
maybe because the blow is softer
than a limb torn off

or the words are more tender
than fourteen men between
your legs
or the insults are easier
to swallow
than rubble
than bone
than your child body
in pieces.
i want to go home,
but home is the mouth of a shark
home is the barrel of the gun
and no one would leave home
unless home chased you to the shore
unless home told you
to quicken your legs
leave your clothes behind
crawl through the desert
wade through the oceans
be hunger
forget pride
your survival is more important

no one leaves home until home is a sweaty voice in your ear
run away from me now
i dont know what i've become
but i know that anywhere
is safer than here

(Sent from my phone)

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

The lenses in which we see (by John Chordy Teagle)

A relationship is how you see someone.

It is sight. It is seeing someone in a certain light. Certain cameras see different spectrums of light. Visible, ultraviolet, infrared and so on.

If you use a certain lens, you are going to see them in that particular spectrum that is negative. It will be hard to see them any other way.

If you use a different lens that is in the positive spectrum, you are more likely to over look their negatives attributes.

Love has its own lens. You will see the positive and the negative. It will allow you to understand how that individual acts and their intent of their actions. When we become transparent to the ones we love and have transparency with the ones we love, we understand that we all have greatness and imperfections.

When you have clarity and understanding, you will see the positive and the negative of that individual in one light. This monochromatic lens renders you colorblind. Yes, love is blind.

What lens are you using when you look at someone?

~ John Chordy Teagle

Monday, August 22, 2016

Steve Jobs quote

"Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart." -Steve Jobs

Friday, August 19, 2016


"Whether it's a community with an opinion or an individual with a perspective, if it's not happening in relationship to other communities or to other people, it's not whole. It will never come to the truth. It's all about relationship. That's what makes us alive. And in order to make change in the world, you can't stay at home and shout your outrage to the universe. You need to go to where the problem is, address it and form a dialogue. You have to engage it. That's the way everything changes."

Ani DiFranco

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Career advice from archivists: what it's like to become one, and other tips for MLIS students

DISCLAIMER: Please note that these are the opinions and thoughts of individuals and not necessarily representative of any agency, body, or organization, or the profession as a whole but rather the experiences and reflections of numerous individuals. None of the following comes from any hiring officials and should not be construed as official hiring advice.

1) I read that the job market is furiously competitive (then again, what job market isn’t). Do you think this is a good time to pursue the profession, and, if so, what is the best strategy to remain competitive?

The opinion on this varies and you will see a range of thoughts below. It's a difficult question to answer definitively but the more skills you can amass, the better equipped you will be at either getting a job or carving out your own niche. (See below for more.)

2) After graduating a few years ago, I realized that I chose the wrong degree. By the time I graduate with my Library of Science degree I will be 30, with little professional experience. Knowing this, do you think potential employers will show any interest in me? Or will I be taken seriously as long as I have the right qualifications and practical (internship/volunteer work) experience.

I do not know for sure so I'll answer this from a personal perspective. My opinion is that employers will be impressed with your ambition, fortitude and maturity and that will matter more than you think (in addition to whatever experience you can proactively obtain while in school).

I was in a similar boat (although with a different degree, and also a very different outcome from my original plans). Prospective employers always asked about my nontraditional path but it has seemed to help because undertaking lofty goals (such as a degree program, especially later in life) communicates to an employer that the applicant cares, is willing to work hard, can learn new skills, and is not easily daunted by challenges; all important skillsets to managers. It is always a noble cause to pursue your dreams and to better yourself.

It may be useful to uncover the specifics of an ideal job. For example, if you are drawn to this field because you love discovering and learning, you may be able to craft a profession which embodies the things you love most even if the outcome diverges from your expectation. It can be very useful to collect "informational interviews" from people in various fields. Think about what you would you like your typical day to look like and note what aligns with what you discover.

A useful read is "What Should I Do With My Life" by Po Bronson, a social documentarian who traveled the country to talk with people who've taken nontraditional paths or uprooted their original route. It can be difficult to embark on a path outside societal/familial/cultural or self expectations and very inspiring to read about others who have "made it" in unexpected ways.

3) My goal after graduation is to be employed by an archives. I know the application process is highly competitive. Please share with me some strategic advice in regards to making me a more attractive job candidate.

I will let the snippets of advice below answer this (again with the stipulation of knowing none of this is "official" or guaranteed), and will offer one additional idea.

There are researchers who have created their own jobs at various archives. They are not employed by the institutions but go to their facilities regularly to conduct research.

The public's need for information is larger than most institutions can meet so you may be able to hang out a shingle as an independent researcher. Contact the institution to find out if they will add your name to a list of researchers people can outsource.

The National Archives has a page where you can apply for a listing to be an independent researcher at: (Some researchers limit themselves to the facility they are nearest and some travel -- the National Archives has facilities all over the country but there are also archives at many nonprofit organizations and educational institutions.) You can get ideas by browsing the list -- it may be sources of inspiration and ideas or perhaps even informational interviews.

Thoughts from archivists and records managers:

"Most every archivist feels it's a personally fulfilling career, according to an SAA (Society of American Archivists) survey. However it may be difficult to find work. The pay is not high."

"Get a solid education -- graduate programs allow you to be more competitive than undergraduate programs alone. Having certification and other optional credentials can also help. Check to see which programs offer volunteer or paid programs either on or off campus. Experience will help you stand out among the competition. Some of our archivists had said that if they realized this while they were choosing a program, they would have made it a make-or-break factor. Education alone is not enough."

"Volunteer!! If you can tell repositories that you're learning theory while practicing application, great."

"View jobs on (or other job sites) and look carefully through the Assessment Questions (or requirements) -- target what to learn based on what's being sought."

"If you're willing to relocate, it can increase chances for a job."

"If you join the military or Peace Corps once your service is complete, members qualify for veterans preference when applying for federal jobs (Peace Corps applicants preference is only temporary)."

"When newly applying out of school, look out for positions that are restricted to recent graduates, as there will be less competition. Start watching the job ads now so you know what employers are looking for, identify what area of archives you are most interested in, and then take classes and volunteer/intern/paid gigs to get the experience."

"Be pro-active with your own career and development. Try to identify the holes in your experience and education, and take advantage of opportunities to fill these gaps. Sometimes, opportunities will come to you. However, more often than not, I have found the best approach is reach out for projects and skills rather than wait for them to be handed to you."

"In addition to flexibility on geographical location, I'd add flexibility with the type of work (Librarian, archivist, type of institution-government, university, corporate, local, special interest, etc). I'd also recommend a course or two in museum studies."

"Dip your toes into a variety of work:
  • Process a collection from start to finish (size does not matter).
  • Do something that involves using a database.
  • Help with a small exhibit (research, design, layout).
  • Get exposure to a variety of settings (archives in a library, a large archival institution, a small local museum).
"This can be an expensive degree with little payback and small windows of opportunity to compete, and stiff competition."

"Federal hiring is incredibly complicated. I recommend building two resumes. The first should be for non-federal positions that is 1 or 2 pages. The federal resume might be up to 5 or 6 pages that describes any and all related experience. If a position talks about performing customer service, and they worked at a restaurant, they should list it. Getting through the HR process is one of the most discouraging aspects to applying to federal employment. I applied to over 120 positions (about 90 federal) when began my search for a job out of grad school. I was only interviewed on 4 of the job announcements (2 federal, 2 at universities)."

"Consider a public school rather than a private one. Try to get a work study job on campus, in the library system if possible, especially if it qualifies you for in-state tuition. This allows you to minimize the financial burden while also gaining valuable experience."

"It used to be that either an MA in History or an MLIS would do the trick. but the last decade or so has seen a preference toward the latter.. While in grad school apply for as many internships as possible (paid or unpaid) until you land a convertible one. This ultimately will get you where you want to go."

"1. The MLS / MLIS is valuable in itself - and broader than just archives. Keep an open mind. There is satisfying work in lots of info professions, and many grads, especially those with good tech skills are getting hired in both traditional and non-traditional jobs. 2. Keep an open mind about modern records, electronic records, records management, and information governance. There are interesting jobs out there in closely related fields, and some are definitely hiring. I say this having really really wanted to be an academic manuscripts librarian when I got out of library school. When the job I actually landed was in institutional archives and RM (records management) at a large non-profit, I was surprised to find that there were really interesting and satisfying things about that work. I probably would have loved manuscripts collections, too. But you go where the jobs really are."

"It's difficult to make enthusiastic aspiring archivists understand how challenging it can be to make a living in this field. We are lucky to have a fairly large intern program here, but every year we see first-hand how some students struggle to find employment after graduation. I really wish it wasn't the case."

"I was told, back when I was getting my MLS, to have *at least* three internship/volunteering activities under my belt. This was before the economic crash, and with the way things are, I've heard students now say they are doing three internships *at a minimum.* It's an arms race, and you have to up the level and stay competitive. If possible, do this while you are in your program, or before, or both, if possible. Many programs require you take an internship anyway."

"It's never going to be a "good time" to enter the profession. That''s been the case with most professions, with the exceptions of people in STEM fields. That said, if someone is set on this, I would recommend becoming a certified archivist or certified records manager, or both."

"Any technology or management education or experience a plus."

"Don't limit yourself to NARA -- other federal agencies have Government Information Specialists, records officers, archivists, and librarians."

"I tend to stress to interns and Public History/MLS degree seekers that they need to understand that these programs are expensive, most jobs in the field don't pay well, and graduate programs seem to be accepting too many applicants for the amount of jobs that are out there. If they still have a passion for it and want to move forward, I wish them luck (knowing that it's very possible they will not end up with a dream job and may struggle financially.)"

"Before my current position, I was involved in hiring at my former employer -- a contracting firm that hired employees to deploy on archives / records management projects. Frankly, we cared more about the work experience than whether it was paid or unpaid. The worst resumes were the ones that organized the person's experience by compensation. Think about job transferable skills that you can apply to archives that were gained outside of archives, as well as the archival skills you develop while in school. Focus your resume on the skills. Someone with some kind of archives related experience always won out over the person with an MLS and a string of retail / restaurant jobs."

"#1: You need to love what you do, but I couldn't in good conscience encourage someone to take on a lot of student debt to chase a job in such a competitive field with such a wide range of salaries and benefits. My advice would be to do the math on what you can expect your loan bills to be after graduation, and do some research on what an average archivist is paid. Then evaluate if you still think the career path is worth it. I am so lucky to be doing a job I love that compensates me well, but I also know that my salary is on the high end for an archivist. Be realistic, but don't give up if this is what you really want. There are lots of good ways to be competitive, many of which have already been mentioned by others. Beyond that, I would emphasize: You can't have enough computer skills."

"Even if you think you'll never work with electronic records or do any digitization, take coursework in those areas. You may wind up a lone archivist trying to serve your patrons by putting material online. You may wind up shopping for software or trying to communicate your needs to software engineers. You may get a huge accession with a bunch of old floppy disks and you'll need to come up with a plan for preserving them. Learn a programming language. Learn some web design. Learn to write queries directly in SQL. You can always use more computer skills. Even if you are sure you only want to work with 200 year old maps, anything you know about computers will make you more valuable to an institution. Eventually they will want to put something online, and you're going to need to have thoughts on how to make that happen."

"If you want to work at NARA, it may help to go to the University of Maryland (College Park). I moved 3000 miles to intern here, and it really worked out in my favor. Having people in the agency who know your work is incredibly helpful."

"Try to have graduate assistantships or scholarships fund your tuition to keep expenses down while in school."

"If you don't get into the archives track in your program, all is not lost. I have a general MLS, but was still able to take archival classes which helped me get the job I have today."

"Find a new volunteer/internship opportunity every semester to diversify your work experience."

"I graduated with my MLS at 23 and had 0 years of professional work experience because I had been in school my entire life, but plenty of internships that enhanced my education. Doing relevant work in the field while you study is paramount."

"Employment at government archives is competitive, but not impossible, you just have to be willing to put in a couple years in a position that isn't *quite* what you were hoping for. But once you have a foot in the door of the federal government, things really open up."

"Library school has never been considered very exciting or stimulating, however it's not something you can skip since a graduate degree is a necessity for the field. Library school is about building a foundation of theoretical knowledge rather than providing practical experience. With that in mind:
  • Make sure you get lots of hands-on experience in as many settings (types of institutions) as you can, whether this is through internships, paid work, or volunteering. Make sure you have worked in an archives prior to entering grad school. Though I find it fascinating, this type of work is not for everyone and you should be 100% certain that this is the career you want prior to investing in school, especially if you will be adding to your student loans.
  • Being willing and able to move to another area of the country for a job is probably the best way to get your foot in the door.
  • Make sure you take courses on digital archives, digitization, and electronic records. The field is really progressing in that direction and organizations are seeking recent grads who know all the most up-to-date technology and data standards.
  • A pragmatic consideration is to take courses on electronic records. All archives will have them if they have an active records management or solicitation program."
More information:

To be an archivist:

Career outlook by Bureau of Labor Statistics:

Archives jobs:

Archives certificate:

Archival internships at NARA:

Careers at NARA:

SAA membership:

Archives programs:

Be an independent researcher registered with the National Archives:

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Oliver Sacks on shifting perspectives

"I feel a sudden clear focus and perspective. There is no time for anything inessential. I must focus on myself, my work and my friends. I shall no longer look at "NewsHour" every night. I shall no longer pay any attention to politics or arguments about global warming.

"This is not indifference but detachment — I still care deeply about the Middle East, about global warming, about growing inequality, but these are no longer my business; they belong to the future. I rejoice when I meet gifted young people — even the one who biopsied and diagnosed my metastases. I feel the future is in good hands.

"I have been increasingly conscious, for the last 10 years or so, of deaths among my contemporaries. My generation is on the way out, and each death I have felt as an abruption, a tearing away of part of myself. There will be no one like us when we are gone, but then there is no one like anyone else, ever. When people die, they cannot be replaced. They leave holes that cannot be filled, for it is the fate — the genetic and neural fate — of every human being to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death."

(Sent from my phone)

Friday, June 24, 2016

Simply being

When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares.

Henri Nouwen

Tuesday, June 14, 2016


From Rich Morey and I had to share:

My heart has been heavy with the murders in Orlando and, sadly, the ensuing foolish political maneuvering...and I have found that I'm at a complete loss as to what to say. So I started exploring a bit through writing and a poem came out.


Its weight becomes a heavy snow,
Dense drifts pushing against our homes,
Invading our streets and hearts:

You could throw your back out shovelling,
Laboring for a narrow path that soon yields
To the next fateful storm; your hopes
Erased among the desolate winds.

And it is in this moment -- despondent,
Thwarted -- that you understand hubris;
The appeal of a black-and-white world;
The comfort of something to cling to.

You can sympathize with surrender;
It's the emptiness you've seen
A hundred times behind terrified eyes.
Darkness looms.

By daybreak, you're back at it.
Heart beating out of your chest,
Straining with all you've got
To refute the enduring lie:

There's simply too much snow,
And not enough shovels.

Sunday, June 12, 2016

Get away from these two types of people:

Late nite wisdom:

"Get away from these two types of people: the ones who think you can only go as far as the situation you were born into; and the ones who think you can only go as far as the current situation you are in."

― Dee Dee M. Scott, Joy Cometh In The Morning

(Sent from my phone)

Saturday, June 11, 2016

Dreams and disappointment

"My favorite story about handling disappointments comes from the India guru Amrit Desai. He had a collection of very rare crystals that he'd accumulated over many years. One day his cleaning lady knocked over a display case and smashed most of the irreplaceable crystals. When she tearfully pointed out her mistake, expecting a violent reaction, the guru shrugged and told her "Those things were for my joy, not for my misery." Your dreams are for your joy; even if they lie crushed on the ground, you need not make them responsible for misery. If you raise your eyes from the shards you'll find more dreams all around, and many of them can come true. As Marcel Proust wrote, "If a little dreaming is dangerous, the cure for it is not to dream less but to dream more, to dream all the time." ~Martha Beck

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Thursday, May 26, 2016

Our work

Are my boots old? Is my coat torn?
Am I no longer young, and still
not half-perfect?
Let me keep my mind on what matters,
which is
my work,
Which is mostly standing still and learning to be

~ Mary Oliver

Sunday, February 7, 2016


"Tell everyone you know: 'My happiness depends on me so you're off the hook.'" Abraham Hicks

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

When you are old

When you are old
When you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;

How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face;

And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.

Source: The Collected Poems of W. B. Yeats (1989)

Thursday, January 14, 2016


"We choose leaders abysmally today. We expect perfection, and when we don't find it we lament the absence of heros. But heroism, by the very definition that came down from the Greeks, is a negotiation between strengths and weaknesses. Maybe I'm being glib when I say that people like the Roosevelts and Lincoln couldn't make it past the Iowa caucuses, but it would be very difficult for them to succeed in this environment."

~Ken Burns